People just need to be honest.
From birth to college, we encourage kids that they can be whatever they want to be. As a kid, I remember storybooks and TV shows and well-meaning adults telling me my dreams are limitless, and I could achieve it all. In college, they feed you the line that no matter your major, you can make no less than $100,000 year* pursuing it.
Somewhere along the way, with that repeated message of limitless possibility floating around in the universe, I became a dreamer. I believed that I could do anything, and anything could happen. As of a matter of fact, I still do.
In all of the above, failure is never mentioned. The fact that _____________ may not happen is never brought up. You are just left believing the dream.
The best lesson I was never taught was you will fail more than you succeed.
Anything is possible, and you are apt to have limitless success; none of that will be possible without failure. When you think about it, how would we know what success is if we did not know what failure was? We know what’s good because we know what’s bad.
When it comes to pursuing our dreams, we need to be realistic about failure. Failure needs to be acknowledged, but it does not have to be accepted.
No amount of success will come without a good amount of setbacks and stumbles. That’s why we, as dreamers, must be greater than our failure. Our failures and setbacks from our past must not be our last words.
I wish that we would be honest with kids. (I wish someone would have been honest with me and let me in on the secret.) Instead of telling children they can do anything, we need to tell them they can do anything regardless of the challenge. We need to be honest with ourselves when we have new ambitions. We need not forget the limitless possibilities that life holds because each set back and failure is just a set up for success.
(*-This is an exaggeration. J)
This was my fortune cookie the other night.